Sommer (above) began identifying with nonbinaries two years ago after feeling like he had lived his entire life in a “suit.”
Although the child was given a gender at birth, his parents want to raise him to be “gender expansive”. A stock photo of a baby is shown.
In contrast to gender neutrality, Sommer noted, “we use the phrase ‘gender-expanding’ more often because I think the latter implies that she just wears beige and has no color in her life.”
Therefore, we use the term “gender-expansive”, which means that our child will be allowed to express himself the way he wants, regardless of the gender he was given at birth.
Now that Stephanie is their wife, Sommer is raising their daughter Juno to be “gender expansive”.
People may think that this is due to a lot of pressure, but we do not apply it; we let her be who she wants to be.
Before deciding to explain to Juno that gender does not define her until she is old enough to choose how she wants to identify herself, the couple first considered having Juno’s upbringing be gender neutral.
In Sommer and Stephanie’s version of parenting, Juno plays with toys for both genders, wears clothes appropriate for each gender, and gets to know good role models from both genders.
HOW DOES GENDER EXTENSION WORKS?
A person with gender expansiveness is not limited to established gender roles.
Instead, they do not fit into any particular gender identity and want to “live outside the box”.
These people may or may not identify their gender at birth, but they do not adhere to the “gender norms” associated with that gender.
The couple recently overcame the problem by finding a daycare center that accepted their family.
According to Sommer, the couple struggled to find a center that was truly inclusive and didn’t attract more clients, despite living in an “awakened” neighborhood.
We just looked at kindergartens and usually wonder: “Are you open to everyone? Are there any LGBT novels here? “And something like that,” Sommer said.
Many people may argue that this is not the case, but we can prove that this is the case and that they cover everyone.
But I just feel that this is not an adequate answer. I want a place where my child will feel included, not left out.
“We found a playgroup with a rainbow theme.” As a result, all parents gather for the monthly Rainbow Families meeting.
According to Sommer, they had trouble letting their family know about their new gender identity and parenting style.
They dress Juno so well and call her beautiful, Sommer said.
Luckily, Sommer said the couple can balance frilly gifts with second-hand pieces from Stephanie’s nephew so Juno still has a choice of clothing options.
Stephanie first noticed Sommer’s “gender difficulties” two years ago, after which, according to Sommer, they began to identify as non-binary.
To treat dysphoria or dysmorphia, some had their breasts removed and Stephanie accompanied them through the procedure.
She said that because they were constantly uncomfortable with their bodies and “hated” the way they developed, puberty was a terrible time for them.
I didn’t feel like I belonged to anything. As Sommer told Daily Mail Australia, “I felt like I was just living my life, but I was being forced into all these female demands.”