She’s about twenty-five and didn’t know where to look when she saw us. I spoke to her briefly so as not to be rude. Now I’m afraid to go back to work because I know she’ll tell everyone, especially since I’m the boss. My partner’s attitude is: “So what – be who you are with confidence, and the novelty will soon pass.” She’s right, of course, but I’ve exaggerated this situation to the limit. Should I e-mail this person and ask her to respect my privacy, or will that only add to the interest in my personal life? I do not know what to do. It was supposed to happen once, but now that it has, I’m nervous.
Maybe I’m making more of it than it really is. I fought hard to be who I am, to first accept myself and then open up to relationships. I don’t want all this progress to disappear. Answer: Cmove away from uncertainty, what is the whole point. It’s like your partner says: accept yourself for who you are, and trust is the key to success. What could have happened from this chance meeting?
There may be some office gossip, but rise above it. Easier said than done, but the trick is to not let it get into your head. You were on vacation with your partner, there is absolutely nothing to hide here.
On the positive side, you have unconsciously enjoyed your time away from home. Now get back to work. Immerse yourself in the atmosphere of a wonderful vacation and talk about it, which will dispel all possible gossip.
Dear Maura:My boyfriend is 28 years old and already on his third career. He stays in place for several months and suddenly feels dissatisfied with various aspects of the job. He will always have meetings to try to solve problems, but then he feels that the job is not for him and starts applying for another position.
I think he doesn’t give the workplace a chance. He has a degree in business, but that’s only because business was his favorite subject on his high school diploma. I think he has no idea what he wants to do, and that’s his problem.
He’s still young, but he doesn’t think so, and I feel like that’s why he keeps going without thinking about what’s ahead of him.
Reply: He doesn’t take the time to figure out what he really wants to do. Convince him that he is still very young, and advise him in what direction he should move in a career that will bring him satisfaction.
Suggest that he contact a career counselor. Have him write down what he would like to do and write a paragraph about where he sees himself in five years. This exercise is designed to get him to focus on what he wants out of life.
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